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“I could not not have asked for and treasured a better friend for over 40 years. We shared so much laughter, love, fun, conversations about every...Read More »
1 of 21 | Posted by: Marcia Aigler - Medfield, MA

“Dear Tom, Barb (Babs as she was affectionately known to me) was a stalwart, loving and dear friend stretching back to our college days, as you know....Read More »
2 of 21 | Posted by: Sara Anderson - Keene, NH

“Tom, Even though I had only met Barb at our BC reunion three years ago, I am deeply saddened to learn of her passing. I loved her spirit and can see...Read More »
3 of 21 | Posted by: Kathy Frank - Roswell, GA

“My Aunt Barbie (Barb as most know her) would always have a good laugh at the hilarity of the moment. She always knew how to make the best of things...Read More »
4 of 21 | Posted by: Josh Lipton - TUCSON, AZ - Family

“Dear Tom, I am so sad to hear this news. Barbara was such a happy soul, very welcoming, and genuinely interested in everyone. Sending you love at...Read More »
5 of 21 | Posted by: Pat Kidder - Newport, RI

“Barb was a joyful soul, a fierce friend, and a wonderful human being. She will be missed greatly, and remembered with love. Our condolences to Tom,...Read More »
6 of 21 | Posted by: Russ and Eric Michaud - San Jose, CA

“My deepest condolences Tom Barbara will be missed especially by her BC football tailgate family football games will never be the same loved her...Read More »
7 of 21 | Posted by: Denis Legere - Providence, RI

“Barbara's passing leaves a huge hole in many people's lives. We are so grateful for our 40 years of friendship with her. Our hearts go out to her...Read More »
8 of 21 | Posted by: Sandy & Norm Michaud - MA

“Tom Norton shared the sad news about Barbara with me. My deepest condolences to you and your family. The BC football stadium will be a less happy...Read More »
9 of 21 | Posted by: Bob Patterson - Boston, MA

“My sorrow is deeply felt at the loss of my sister. ”
10 of 21 | Posted by: Sara Meyers - Tucson, AZ - Sister

“My "Aunt" Barbie was my Godmother, and I was so incredibly lucky to have her in my life, as was my mother, Barbara Middaugh. A truly wonderful human....Read More »
11 of 21 | Posted by: Chase Middaugh - Denver, CO

“You will be missed. You were a ray of sun shine. RIP xxx ”
12 of 21 | Posted by: Laurent-Armand Lachance - Newport, RI

“Thinking of you Tom at this time. Barbara was irreplaceable. She was always the shining light in the room that everyone gravitated to. She had a way...Read More »
13 of 21 | Posted by: Ellen and Neil Macdonald - MA

“Tom,My deepest, sincere sympathy to you and all who knew Barbara. Though I had only met her a few time, each one of those occasions, Barbara always...Read More »
14 of 21 | Posted by: Allison Troiani - Quincy, MA

15 of 21 | Posted by: Tom McDevitt

“I remember her as such a lovely, sweet, gracious woman at Bow Lake with the Chuck Kezerfamily. It was a privilege to visit with her. You, Tom, were...Read More »
16 of 21 | Posted by: Joan Metcalfe - Peabody

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Barb at camp in Maine
19 of 21 | Posted by: A friend

“I will miss you my dear friend. My life was richer because you were in it. ”
20 of 21 | Posted by: Chris Flanagan - Hilton Head, SC

“I have so many incredible memories of adventures and life experiences with Barb. You were more my sister than cousin.... thank you for sharing your...Read More »
21 of 21 | Posted by: Martha Koslowsky - Green Valley, AZ

Barbara Cady McDevitt passed away on July 25 with her husband of nearly 27 years, Thomas C. McDevitt, by her side. Barbara and Tom moved from Cambridge to Melrose in 1995 and fell in love with its quiet streets, emerging downtown, and friendly neighbors. In addition to her husband, she is survived by a sister and her husband, Sara and Kurt Meyers of Arizona, as well as hundreds of family members and friends from many places and various parts of her life. She was born in Buffalo, New York, the daughter of Sheldon H. Cady and Barbara Urquhart Cady. She was a cherished daughter- in- law of the late Joseph V. McDevitt and Phyllis A. McDevitt of Rhode Island.

Barbara was born with several serious medical conditions, but with the help of loving and supportive parents and dedicated physicians, she defied the odds and led an active and happy life. Along the way, other medical challenges would arise that would have sidelined lesser people, but Barbara, again and again, took the hard way and persevered. Amid the global COVID pandemic, Barbara became sick in early March with an unrelated respiratory illness and was admitted to the hospital. As recently as July 18, Barbara appeared to be on the road to recovery before other complications arose and, despite her courage and will, her body could not rally again.

Barbara grew up in Corning, New York and Short Hills, New Jersey. After college in New Hampshire and Ohio, she moved to Boston on her own and found jobs in the food, medical, and finance industries before returning to school to get a special education degree at Lesley University in her late thirties. She worked in the Wilmington Public Schools for about seventeen years as a special education teacher, mostly at the Woburn Street School. Along the way she made many close, personal friends and kept them for the rest of her life. She was able to do this because she was always supportive, kind, unceasingly loyal, and was fun to be around. She was small of stature, but she had the heart of a giant.

Although Barb and her future husband lived in the same building in Cambridge for several years, the first time they talked to each other was at the Park Street subway station in Boston. They became commuter buddies at first and only later did they become a couple. Barbara was immediately accepted into Tom's large family of siblings, in-laws, cousins, nieces, and nephews. In turn, Tom was taken in by Barbara's huge network of friends. They were married in 1993 and enjoyed visiting family and friends, spending two weeks each August in East Orleans on Cape Cod, eating out in local restaurants, and travel. Only recently, Barb and Tom became friends with several similarly aged people from Sargent Street. They only wish they could have found each other earlier.

Barbara's interests were varied. She was a skilled knitter who specialized in baby sweaters, blankets, and hats. She was involved with a book club of retired teachers that spent more time going to movies, drinking wine, and having lunch together than discussing books. She accompanied Tom to watch Boston College hockey and football games and became a favorite among the members of the Pikes Peak Hockey Booster Club. More recently, she became involved with the Protection of Animals in Wakefield Society or PAWS as a volunteer and foster.

An event to celebrate Barbara's life will be held at a later date. Gifts in Barbara's memory can be made to PAWS, 411 Lowell Street, Wakefield, MA 01880. For online tribute, visit